Rich People’s Touching Stories of Dating the Less Wealthy

‘All the Milk You Want’

The first night my wife (then GF) moved in she asked if she could have a glass of milk. I said “Sure, you can always have anything. This is your house too.” She then poured this very small bit into a tumbler and sat back to talk. I must have looked at her weirdly because she said “Did I pour too much?” I told her no, drink all the milk you want. She then asked, “What if you run out?” I told her I’d just get more. I could see those two things didn’t coexist in her world…All the milk I want? Really?

Over the next two days, she demolished the best part of a couple of gallons. I’ve never seen someone so legit happy.

We’ve been married nearly 25 years and I’ve always kept a box of powdered milk in our cupboard. We never use it but it helps us both remember and appreciate our situation.

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Aisle by Aisle

My husband grew up in a family where they were comfortable but on a strict budget. Six kids and mom on disability. My family had no budget.

One day we were at the grocery store and he always insists on walking up and down every aisle. I finally lost it because he was taking so long and asked him why he did it.

“Growing up we could only spend $100 a week on groceries for all of us. I always had to put what I wanted back because we couldn’t afford it. Now I can afford whatever I want so I like to look at everything I could have.”

Took him 10 years to tell me this. I felt like a terrible person.

Love Filled More than Just the Fridge

I was in my late 30s, recently separated and was dating a single woman the same age. She lived in a modest one-bedroom apartment, lived within her means and generally presented as middle class. One day I notice she has very little food at the house so I suggest we go to the market. She says she can’t until she gets paid, so I said “Hop in the car.” We get to the market and I start filling the cart with stuff to eat and have on the shelves. Nothing that extravagant.

I look over and she is balling like a baby. I ask what’s up? She replies: “I’ve never in my life been able to go in the market and just get anything I want.”

I was taken aback. There was about $120 worth of food in the cart. No Filet Minion, no shrimp, just regular groceries.

Fast forward ten years, she lives with me and goes to Whole Foods three times a week!

Rent? More like Earn-t!

My SO said “Today I made rent” meaning “today I’ve earned enough/accumulated enough to pay the rent” and I realized that this is a monthly accomplishment to someone with no fixed income/salary.

One Thin Slice of Meat

Sandwiches. When I made him a sandwich I only put one thin slice of meat in it. He couldn’t believe that was how I had sandwiches growing up.

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To Buy New or Not to Buy New

We have two young kids, and my wife was shocked when I said we should look for clothes and toys for them at local flea markets and garage sales. The idea never occurred to her that we could save money by getting some gently-used items, she had never even been to a garage sale in her life. She has grown to love them and now questions whether it is worth it to buy any item “new” or not before running to Amazon or a store. Her parents think it’s disgusting we make our kids wear clothes that another child had before, but they don’t pay my bills.

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Wendy’s Wonders

She and her mother lived with her grandfather to not be homeless because her grandfather owned a house.

She was putting community college payments on her credit card and building debt with it.

I paid off her credit cards when we were dating and she cried from me being so nice (it was only like 1,300 bucks). I bought a condo, then we got married, then we bought a house. I never really considered myself rich until I started dating her and learned that a trip to Wendy’s was a treat. I grew up middle class, and we are currently middle class

A Culinary Contrast

My family is far from rich, but I grew up closer to the upper-middle-class realm and was making 3x as much as my now-husband when we met. He grew up extremely poor, and his family is still living that way.

One big difference is how he’s surprised that my parents pick up the check when we go out to celebrate a birthday or a graduation, and that my parents ask him to pick whatever restaurant he wants. Outside of the ritziest steakhouse in town, they don’t care. To his family, a big meal out is going to McDonalds and not eating off the dollar menu (I’m serious).

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 The Hunger Games

When we were first married she would get visibly uneasy if the food in the house was running low. She never overate or anything, she was just always concerned about it. A lot of times when she was younger, she went hungry.

On the humorous side though, she hates camping. Her answer is always the same: I camped because it was fun, she camped because they couldn’t afford hotels.

Love Gained, Pounds Gained

When we started dating, she always wanted to chill at my place, never hers. Which was fine. But she gained 35lbs in just like a few months of dating (She was 100lbs when we started dating) Not that it was a bad thing, 1) I am a chubby man and 2) I was just glad she wasn’t pregnant. Anyway, turns out her family couldn’t like, afford dinner sometimes. So suddenly she had a place to eat every night and gorged herself.

Growing Up Financially Savvy

For me growing up, we were encouraged to get a credit card in our name and use it as much as possible in order to build credit. There was always money to pay it off each month, so it made sense to 1) build credit and 2) collect airline miles or whatever the reward was back in the day.

When we got together, she always used cash or a debit card. She had a credit card “for emergencies” and avoided using it otherwise. It took a long time to get her over her aversion/skepticism (we were fortunate to have two good-paying jobs), though it also taught me a healthy appreciation for what it means to have a financial cushion.

F. H. B. Protocol

When the family had people over for dinner, if they ended the prayer before the meal with “F. H. B., Amen.” it was a signal to let the children know that they don’t have enough food for everyone, so take smaller servings and let the guests get a regular serving.

FHB = “Family, hold back.”

They were always generous to their friends and didn’t let their lack of funds embarrass themselves when doing so.

Microwaves and Cinemas

I’m not rich at all but my husband came from a very poor Mexican village. He told me he used to shower outside (because there was no in-house plumbing) and use leaves as toilet paper. I mean, there’s poor, and there’s my husband’s-previous-life poor.

He’s been living in the US for 12 years now but when we first met it was so interesting seeing life through his child-like eyes. Going to the cinema was a huge event for him. Heating food up in a microwave was a totally foreign concept. And staying at fancy hotels when we went on vacation was like WOAH. I still see him surprised by things now and then and it just reminds me how much I take my middle status class for granted.

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The Financial Odd Couple

I came from a relatively wealthy family (new money – my dad started his own business and grew up poor) and my wife came from a lower-income blue-collar family. We got married out of college and neither made much money in the beginning.

My biggest surprise was how she wanted to spend money. She was shocked when my mom bought her a $100+ pair of jeans for a birthday. She couldn’t wrap her mind around spending that much on jeans.

But she wanted a motorcycle (for me – which I don’t ride in the first place). And then a new furniture set. And then a new bed. And then a new car. She wasn’t concerned about savings or retirement. (And she never wanted my parents’ money for any of it – we are both way too proud of that).

It took a long time for her to come around to having an emergency savings account, focusing on debt and not needing the other sh*t. She eventually realized that her parents wouldn’t be in such a terrible situation because their spending habits are horrible.

She still has it come out sometimes though. We recently paid off my car and she immediately thought I should get a new car.

Wife’s Nonchalant Present

My experience is from the opposite perspective, I was the poor one. It absolutely floored me how my wife acts when something broke like a car, appliances, clothes, etc. As a child living below the poverty line, replacing a tire or other necessities was a disaster, requiring tricky trade-offs in the budget or just plain acceptance of just how boned you were. When my wife’s phone broke, I went into full panic mode while she shrugged and said: “we can just a new one this afternoon”. And then we did.

When in Doubt, Pepper It Out

More of a funny incident, but I was the poor one. My husband, at the time still my boyfriend, took me out to a very nice restaurant. The waiter ask if I want pepper on my Caesar salad that was just made table side. I said sure and he goes about it. The thing is, I didn’t know you had to say stop. My husband slowly realizes this but decides to see it play out.

He did eventually say that I need to say stop… I just thought a Caesar was had this way as it was my first time even eating a salad that wasn’t just iceberg and ranch dressing. It still tasted fine, just a little bit too much pepper haha.

Marrying Down with a Smile

It’s the other way around for me. My fiancee comes from a 6 figure family. They have a beautiful home in the country on a very well-to-do road, and three nice new cars, and they used to go on regular vacations when we were still in school. My single mom raised my sister and I alone in sh*tty apartments. The only way we afforded anything was through hand-me-downs and government assistance. We weren’t dirt poor but I never bought anything new until I graduated college and moved out on my own.

Anyway, throughout my relationship with my fiancee, we have had a series of conversations where she realized her family’s flashy lifestyle wasn’t typical and I realized how the other half lives. She was surprised to find I had never been camping in an RV or cabin, only tents. We didn’t go out to eat except for very special occasions and her family ate out every single weekend at nice restaurants in the area – which shocked me. For most gift-giving holidays, we got practical gifts and she got nice electronics.

I could think of more but you get the idea. Outside of little realizations, our financial backgrounds don’t really affect us because her family is liquid garbage who has disowned her (long story there) and I love my family but they live far enough away that I don’t see them a ton.

The most we get out of it is I make jokes about her marrying down.

Trading Cars, Trading Respect

My wife earned many times more than I did when I was a high school teacher back when we were dating. She sometimes would drive my 10 yr old primer-black, stick-shift Honda Civic that my cousin lent me until I could buy another car. She was blown away by how aggressively mean people are to you when you drive an ugly old car. When she got out of the car the spell lifted.

I got a lot of respect from her for that. She seemed to think I was a saint for not turning sour over it. I was constantly getting pulled over by cops and let go, targeted by road rage, and also pedestrians felt too comfortable engaging with me.

I drive a newer Honda (1 yr old) now and it is so different. I drive the same but probably drive a bit more aggressively now that I can’t hear the wind roaring by when I’m going over 40mph. I haven’t been pulled over and haven’t had a negative interaction on the road in a long time. Also, my wife now enjoys trading cars with me.

Three Paycheck Magic

Making financial decisions based on the three paycheck month.

If you’re paid every two weeks, most months you get two paychecks, and all of your monthly bills and budgeting is based on those two paychecks. But twice a year there are three paydays in a month, and that’s when you can actually solve problems. That’s when you can get the car registered, or fix the dryer, or get the cat spayed.

The other 10 months you’re doing maintenance and trying to scrape by. In three paycheck months, you can actually try to fix problems.

Breaking News

My wife genuinely thought, and her family still does, that there is a direct relationship between someone’s net worth and the labels they purchase. If someone doesn’t have a Gucci bag or a Rolex watch, why, it’s because they can’t afford it! My wife was astonished when I first told her that people exist that are ultra-wealthy and yet drive old cars and wear clothes without labels.

Anxious Wallets to Worry

We met in college and my parents paid for everything while he had student loans and a part-time job to pay for everything else. If he was really hurting, his parents would transfer $40 into his account. But that was pretty rare and they’d give him h*ll if he asked.

He was always very anxious about spending money and never bought name brands. He would also buy essentials like toilet paper in 2 rolls at a time (1 ply only). He didn’t really realize that buying so little every few days was wasting money rather than buying in bulk. When we booked our first vacation (a cheap road trip to Georgia) he couldn’t pay for anything and was worried the whole time. The anxiety that would keep him up at night made me so sad.

He still never fills up his gas tank all the way, only $10 at a time. Drives me nuts. But now we both have great full-time jobs and he rarely has any anxiety. He never has to worry about money anymore and is so much happier as a result.

When Grass Isn’t Greener

I come from a family just a bit higher than the top 1%. I was walking out of my ex’s garage and I saw a lawn mower. I asked her why they owned their own lawn mower if they weren’t in the landscaping business.

That was the day I learned most people don’t hire other people to mow their lawns.

One Pot Wonders

Growing up, I lived off of cheap / food stamp meals, like scrambled eggs, ramen, rice, and the like. Eating at McDonald’s was like going to a steakhouse to me – we rarely did it. Needless to say, though there wasn’t much variety, I was in the kitchen learning how to make these small meals along with my parents before they passed away.

My wife, however, had a lot of fast food, to go, and big, home-cooked meals that her mom cooked. Most of her stuff was provided, and everyone ate and had enough for seconds.

When we moved in together in college and got married, the kitchen was mostly my domain, simply because she didn’t know how to cook many meals, besides a couple of recipes from a book her mom gave her. Her go-to was “Let’s get pizza!” or “Pick up McDonald’s / Bueno / etc on the way home”. Being newlyweds and broke, we needed the kitchen more than being served.

Teaching someone how to cook that gets stressed out if there’s more than one pot going on the stove or using the oven while using the stove was… Stressful.

She’s gotten better, and I enjoy cooking with her and our son. But… We all still have a long ways to go.

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In a Material World

I was shocked at how many tools her family could replace with a butter knife. I was also surprised how they used the same cup for everything. Each person’s cup was used for everything from coffee to wine to milk to beer. I’ve come to appreciate many aspects of my wife’s previous lifestyle. I find I’m much less stressed now knowing how unimportant material things are.

One thing I can’t accept though is how she used to put safety second. For example, no outlet covers on outlets, no railing on stairs, standing on a makeshift laser to grab things from a high shelf, etc.

I should add I’m not what most would consider rich…however, I was absolutely comparatively rich. I’m also proud to say my wife now makes more than me – get it, girl!

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Breaking the Penny-Pinching Spell

We did always have clothes and food and normally got brand-name clothes and some expensive things from our grandparents for presents.

My girlfriend though whom I’ve been living with for the last year came from a family of 5, all with different dads and no actual dad that stuck around. Bounced around faster care when she was really young until her grandparents took her in. But at times went without eating because there was no money, and continued to live this way as she moved out right after high school and could just barely afford what she needed.

Fast toward now, she’s starting to come around to the idea that we can always buy groceries, and spend a decent amount on them if she wants. She was always super against spending any money on anything that wasn’t needed, always worried about something going wrong and suddenly needing more than what we have saved up. It’s been a trip trying to convince her that we’re ok and we have the money that we need plus that little extra.

Cheap vs. Costly

 I grew up firmly middle class and married an immigrant from a poor family. I was surprised at just how expensive it is to be poor. Planning ahead to limit long-term costs tends to cost more upfront, and his family just didn’t have enough money in a given month’s budget to do that.

For example, his family would go through paper towels like crazy and didn’t own any cloth kitchen towels. At first, I found this horribly wasteful, but it’s because a single roll of paper towels is much cheaper than a couple of kitchen towels. Even though you’ll end up paying a lot more for the many rolls of paper towels you’ll go through in the time it takes the cloth towels to wear out, you just can’t justify the initial expense. And it became a habit, so even when they were at my house, they would reach for the paper towels. Normally a roll of paper towels lasts me a month or two because I use cloth for most things. They’d easily go through a roll or two a week.

Same with pots and pans and any other durable household item – they would buy the crappy pans that only last a year or two, while I have Revere Ware pans that I inherited from my great-grandmother. They also didn’t treat these items well, which caused them to wear out even faster. I’m not sure why that was, maybe just because they had every expectation of needing to replace them, so squeezing out an extra couple of months of use wasn’t worth the time it takes to be careful.

A Bittersweet Coastal Adventure

We were making a trip down the coast of California with a variety of stops along the way. One of them was the Monterrey Bay Aquarium. So there we are sitting at the Oyster Bar which has this amazing view of Monterrey Bay and I look over at her and she says “I’ve never seen the ocean before” with the same tone of voice you might say “I need to have a root canal”. I realized a couple of things at that moment, just how poor she really was and how different our lives had been, how big a deal this little meaningless trip to me was to her, and how totally messed up she was emotionally. I later found out she had in fact never left her hometown, never been on an airplane until then, and never been to a theme park of any kind (we spent a few days at Disneyland), and I just felt absolutely horrible for her. My family had periods of overabundance and extreme poverty so I had experienced both ways of life, but it struck me that even though I knew what poverty was, I didn’t know what ONLY poverty was. I’d had bad times sure, but I had also had really good times, really great memories, she did not. Everyone in her life had used her and thrown her away, and she was just broken.

I cared about her, but I realized I didn’t really love her. I wanted to make her life better, but I knew that while we had a lot of fun, we were just two very different people with almost nothing in common and a totally different perspective on the world. She had serious emotional problems she needed to work through, and it wasn’t something I could fix for her by throwing money around. We parted ways on good terms. I’m glad I got to give her an experience that I like to think gave her a reason to focus on herself and work through things, but I will never know because once she got back home she totally cut off contact with me. I heard through a friend that while she acted like she understood and felt the same, she in fact didn’t and was devastated by it not working out between us. It still bothers me today that I couldn’t help her more, and I don’t know what happened to her (I’ve tried to find out with no success, it’s like she dropped off the face of the planet).

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An Unshakeable Force

I came from a family worth multi-millions. My wife came from a family who could barely eat and dealt with CPS at times.

We fell in love in high school. We’ve been married for 12 years and love each other more each day.

About 5 years into our relationship, I realized how weak I was in comparison to her strength. And realized that much of what I had growing up while providing a net of safety, produced feelings and issues of anxiety. On the contrary, when we faced adversity in our earlier years, my wife was a solid rock. I don’t mean this to sound insensitive but at times, I am envious of what she experienced growing up because it has made her an amazing human being full of strength and peace. Nothing phases her.

I was told by people outside of my immediate family (friends and others) how there would be challenges with our demographics being so vastly different. The only challenge I’ve found is on her end having to deal with someone who had so much given to them growing up out of good intentions from their parents and her being so gracious and strong in helping me overcome my weaknesses.

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Surviving Different Worlds

I grew up pretty wealthy, had two cars in high school, went to private schools, and had anything I could ask for. We snowboarded every winter and went boating every summer. Travelled the world with my family. She grew up without a bed, eating rice every day, sometimes no food, or no home for a long time, couch surfing with different families and stuff. She had no insurance, and nobody to watch over her from very early on. She didn’t sleep in a bed that was hers until she was 18. It’s kind of amazing she survived.

But now that we’ve been together a long time, there are a couple of things that really stand out. One, she’s very insecure. It makes sense though, she had zero security her entire life. Now she panics thinking I’m going to leave her over the smallest thing and it scares her because this is the steadiest thing have ever been for her. Second, she’s really bad with money. She has the urge to constantly buy things she doesn’t need. No idea how to save or plan for the future. She’s never had any more than a few dollars at a time before so that money just disappears as soon as she gets it.

So now I handle all the money and planning and stuff. I just tell her to give me X amount of each paycheck and take care of everything else. She can spend the rest. I’ve taught her as much as I can about how the world of finance works, but some of it doesn’t click. I helped her get through college. First in her family to graduate so that was a big deal. And now we’ve settled into a nice routine.

But she still is reminded every day of how poor she was. She still thanks me constantly for giving her a normal life. She’s so happy every day that we just have furniture and a car and food in the fridge. It’s kind of nice to be able to give her that. It’s something I don’t think I’ll ever really understand. To not have access to food or shelter.

Arctic Living 101

I saved enough to buy a really nice condo. It was $750k so to give you an idea I’m not poor at all.

My girlfriend and I moved into the condo I bought. The first day I come home from work in the new condo. I notice it’s absolutely freezing.

The thermostat is turned down to 40 degrees. All the lights are off. And all the doors are closed. I can’t see the dog who always greets me coming home.

I open the spare bedroom door and there she is under the covers. Bundled up in shirts, snow pants, sweatshirts, coats, hats, gloves etc reading a book.

“What are you doing?”

“Saving money”

My husky loved it though. It was freezing.

Roofs and Riches

My wife grew up poor in Appalachia in a big extended. What surprised me was how freely they share money with each other. They’ll just loan each other a few hundred casually, with no real expectation of repayment. Car repair, water heater fails, need a new roof, boom here’s some cash. That’s unheard of in my wealthy family.

Waking Up to Wonder

I dated a guy who didn’t have running water growing up and I realized how privileged I was. Two things really stuck out to me:

He could fix anything. I mean ANYTHING. He rewired all of the outlets in our apartment, replaced the radiator on my truck and repaired dents in the drywall from moving. He was completely self-taught because his family couldn’t afford to buy new and it was an easy way to make a little money, doing repairs or fixing up things people threw away and selling them.

The look of awe on his face seeing things for the first time. When we were moving him from Illinois to Georgia he’d fallen asleep in the car and I woke him as we went through the mountains in Tennessee. Pure wonder and taking so many pictures. The same thing driving through downtown Atlanta. He’d never been to a city bigger than Paducah KY which if you know where that is I’m so sorry. He was 36 years old and had never seen an ocean so I took him to Tybee Island for his birthday. He was scared to get in because he never learned to swim.

It made me realize how much I took for granted all the time and though we didn’t work out I was so glad I could experience those moments with him.

Lessons in Privilege

I grew up middle class, the GF’s family immigrated from SE Asia with nothing and are doing fine now but generally very frugal, this obviously transferred over to her financial habits. There are two things that come to mind – buying the cheapest thing and not knowing what to do with savings.

To elaborate, she would almost always buy the cheapest option when looking for a product. If it was at the dollar store, that was good enough. When you go for the lowest price only and are using something often, it’s not going to last as long and you will end up needing to buy it again, which eventually costs more than paying a bit more for one that is going to last longer. Now she gets it, but it was a battle for sure.

The second point is that her family has a history of gambling problems, and she sees investing as a form of gambling. I wouldn’t be surprised at all if a bunch of her family literally have money under their mattresses. The result is all her savings just sit in a low-interest bank account, and it’s no small sum since she makes a decent wage and is very frugal. We’re still working on this one.

The Pool That Stole Her Heart

It was probably the way she swooned over the pool I had custom-built for her. From my perspective, the noise and the work crews were a bigger sacrifice than the expense. Yet the place finally felt like home to her when the project was complete. Sometimes it seemed like she would spend all day out there soaking and splashing around in the deep end.

In her youth, her family hardly had any money at all. They mostly got through fishing in one large backwoods lake. Except for pranking the occasional tourist, swimming was her only real pleasure back then. The way she moves in the water is amazing. It’s like she was born for it.

Though she was politely appreciative of jewels and fine art, I could tell that she was just playing along. With a couple of exceptions, she didn’t understand what set these treasures apart from ordinary items. When I first talked about building the pool for her, she was slow to grasp that was even an option. Yet I’ve never seen her happier than the day we had it filled.

Her background came back into the picture when she asked for some money to go buy swimwear to go with the new swimming venue. I called her driver and told her she should go out and buy anything her heart desires. Yet, ever modest in her material ambitions, my Nessie just smiled down at me and said, “I’m gonna need about tree fiddy.”

Flavorful Discoveries

I’m pretty middle class with parents that believe in family-oriented meals with homecooked food and fresh fruit and veg.

My boyfriend was very poor and lived with his drug-addict mum who barely looked after him. I was so surprised that he hadn’t ever tried some of my favourite foods like avocado, sweet potato, kiwis etc. He was confused when he first visited my house (I was still living with my parents) and we sat down and had a meal together with my parents – he would just have microwave meals in his bedroom when he grew up.

He also had a bit of a sugar addiction when we first met (he had just moved out to university) because his mum didn’t regulate the amount of sweets and sugary drinks he had – he was surprised that I had never tried some types of soda and I rarely ate sweets. My parents weren’t exactly strict with sugary things but they just didn’t buy them, I had fruit and water instead and only had sweets on special occasions like Easter, Halloween, Christmas etc.

He also was surprised when I bought him a few really nice presents that he actually enjoyed for Christmas/his birthday etc (not that much, I spent maybe £60) because his mum would only have money to buy him essentials like underwear and simple clothing. He’s so grateful for every little thing I get him and it’s adorable.

Love in the Repair Shop

I grew up in a wealthy family and my fiance is from a single-income household, with his mom being an elementary school teacher. I grew up with a disposable mindset; if something breaks, we will just get a new one. Heck, if I was just bored of my old stuff (clothes, skateboards, makeup, etc…) my parents would just give me the newest / best things without me ever having to ask for anything. Did the dog rip up the back seat of your car? That’s fine we will just get you a new car. It’s totally bonkers how spoiled I was growing up (my folks are awesome, really good people, and they grew up poor and dreamed of being in a financial position where they could spoil their kids).

What surprises and impresses me is the great care my fiance takes of his things. He values his possessions sentimentally: he tends to them as soon as they begin to show signs of wearing down. As a result of this diligent disposition, his things last a long time and don’t break down as soon as mine do. He is also an informed and discerning consumer when he *has* to buy new things because each purchase is an investment that will last him for years to come.

I know his upbringing was a lot financially harder than mine was, but I think this endowed him with invaluable skills I never fostered growing up.

I admire the way he values his belongings. I admire how smart he is. He knows how to fix anything, he is incredibly resourceful, and he knows the inner workings of his machines and how to diagnose and fix problems.

A Mini-Mart in Disguise

My husband buys food like crazy, he dates the cans and rotates. His goal is to always have extra of everything, everything!! Sometimes I feel like we live in a mini-mart lol my friends joke about our pantry having everything, I know it’s because he grew up really poor. The first Christmas he spent with my family he was loaded down with presents, I found out he only got socks, underwear and a wallet for Christmas every year. That was all. For Christmas, he has to go crazy buying our kids and me presents, we constantly tell him to not go nuts but he can’t help himself. He is super cautious with money, even though he won’t spend much on himself but I love to spoil him!

The Accidental Luxury

My current gf considers ice cream as a super luxurious item. I remember on one of our first dates, I fancied an ice cream, so I invited her to one after going to the cinema. After that, she began behaving somewhat weirdly the rest of the afternoon. When I finally asked her what was wrong she told me she felt very bad for being responsible that I was spending way too much money on her, mind you the ice cream was about 2 bucks. I am not surprised by the ice cream itself, what surprised me was that there are a lot of things that I don’t even think about, that to her were fairly rare. A couple of weeks after that, she has to take care of her sister, so I offered to take them both out, when we got to the restaurant her little sis was super confused and didn’t know what was the occasion. Turns out they only dine out on very special days (such as someone’s birthday).