Homeschooling in 2020 has been very difficult for parents, so it’s understandable if that’s all you’ve had time for. However, remember that there is so much to life outside of school. Your kids should be learning basic life skills about saving money, making a budget, cutting the lawn, cleaning the house, and so much more. This needs to happen much easier than you would imagine. Kids learn their financial habits by the age of 7.
When I was a nanny and preschool teacher, I witnessed kids who knew how to clean up after themselves by age 3. I was shocked to see this, because my brothers grew up never being asked to clean the house by my parents until they were much older. The older your kids are when they start learning how to clean, the more difficult it will be for them to make it a habit. During these long winter months when there’s nothing else better to do, consider setting aside a day or two every weekend to learn a new skill. One day, your kids are going to look back on it and want to thank you for your effort.
Being stuck inside during the winter is the perfect opportunity for your kids to clean out their closet. This could be something fun, or something very difficult. If you approach this as if it’s exciting rather than a chore, your kids will pick up on your energy, and get excited too.
Before you get started, consider watching a TV show on Netflix like Tidying Up With Marie Kondo, or The Home Edit. This might get them excited to organize, too. When you’re putting some of the clothes in a “donate” pile, explain to them how much they’re helping other children have clothes to wear, especially now in a difficult time. This will help to make them feel good about their generosity and willingness to let things go.
Let’s face it. Kids love video games. Some parents use the iPad as a babysitter, but it doesn’t have to be. There are a lot of multiplayer games that you can play with your kids. Sometimes it’s possible to both be on the same iPad, but you can also download the same app on your phone while they’re logged in on their end. One of the most popular co-op games right now is called Among Us, which is very similar to the card game Mafia, only in video game form.
This is a great opportunity to listen to your kids explain why they love their favorite games, and they can teach you how to play. As adults, we don’t always take the time to show interest in what our kids love. Having fun with them almost always makes a relationship better. When you play together, this is also going to make it easier for you to tell them to turn it off. For example, if you can sit down to watch and play, say, “Once you defeat the next level, let’s turn this off, get our chores done, and make Christmas cookies.” Instead of commanding them to “do it now”, they will love that you understand and respect their game.
If your kids are in elementary school, they would have most likely made an ornament in art class to bring home with them. Since they can’t do that this year, you can pull together some simple supplies to make your own ornaments at home. You can make ornaments from popsicle sticks, clay, paper, and so much more.
Dollar Tree also has a big variety of DIY ornaments that already come with the little hole and string attachment. Some of them look like snow globes, which are one of the cutest DIY crafts I’ve seen in a while. One of the best kid ornaments to make is when they press their little handprints in clay. If you don’t already have one, check out this kit online.
This might sound overly simplistic, but simply watching the snowfall is actually a great pastime. Taking a moment to be quiet and enjoy nature can decrease your child’s level of stress and anxiety. This is a perfect pastime with a nice cup of hot cocoa, and a cuddly blanket. As simple as this sounds, your kids will remember the peace they felt when admiring the snow fall.
In today’s world, it’s all about instant gratification. There is very little time for anyone to just sit and slow down. In its own way, sitting and watching the snow is kind of like meditating. You’re just taking time to enjoy the beauty of nature for what it is. Encourage your kids to watch the snowfall for as long as they want. Or maybe encourage them to read a book while they sit on the windowsill.
3. Get Your Kids Involved With Buying Family Gifts
When you’re a busy parent, it’s all too easy to just do all of the holiday gift shopping online without a second thought. This year, your kids won’t be going to the mall with you to visit Santa, or experience holiday shopping as we once knew it. However, buying great gifts for people is actually a skill within itself. When your kids grow up, you want them to be thoughtful adults who think about the wants and needs of others.
For example, even though we’re all adults, my three brothers ask me what to buy for the people in their lives. As children, my mother really only spent time with me buying gifts for family members, because I was her only daughter. No matter what gender your child is, teach them about giving gifts, because it teaches them to pay attention to the needs of others. This will also strengthen their personal relationships, too.
During difficult times like this, it’s more important than ever to reach out to the people you love. Maybe you have already let your kids join you in a Facetime call with their grandparents and extended family. Even if they see their friends on a Zoom meeting for school, this isn’t the same as one-on-one conversations with their besties. Allow them to call their friends sometimes, and encourage them to reach out to people they love.
With so much isolation, it’s all too easy for your kids to fall into an antisocial pattern. Many parents are reporting that their children are already developing a fear of people. Psychologists report that as they grow up, they’re going to experience far more anxiety than the previous generation. The more you allow your children to reach out to the people they love, the stronger your relationships will be with those you care about. Knowing that they have the support of people who love them is going to help them get through this.
Last and certainly not least is that you should take some time to ask your kids about their future, if you haven’t done so already. What do they want to be when they grow up? So many people forget their childhood dreams, because society convinced them that it wasn’t possible. Instead of projecting your own hopes and dreams onto your child, pay attention to what gives them the most happiness. As Dr. Deepak Chopra says, “If a child is poor in math but good at tennis, most people would hire a math tutor. I would hire a tennis coach.” Everyone has special skills, and a destiny for what they were meant to do.
In the wintertime, this is a great time to let them create a Pinterest vision board of their future. Help them hone their goals, and help to facilitate their dreams. Guide your children on the steps they’ll need to take in order to achieve their dreams. For example, if they say that they want to be a doctor, explain that they need to get good grades in school, because one day they’ll need to go to medical school. This will encourage them to study and focus on their homeschooling.