People Reveal the Moment Their Partner Was Caught Cheating on Them

Shannon Quinn - April 13, 2021
His girlfriend was caught cheating at a party. He tried to forgive her, but it traumatized him for life. Credit: Shutterstock

22. He Didn’t See it Coming, and the Scars Cut Deep

Cheating can hurt a lot more when you fully, deeply trusted your partner. You were absolutely sure they would never cheat on you, and then they do. It makes you question your own judgement, which takes a long time to rectify. A Redditor named ChapInGrillSGT tells this story:  “My best friend was friends with my girlfriend and her roommates. Word got to my friend about her bringing some dude home after a party and my friend eventually spilled to me. As she said ‘I really don’t want to tell you this and I know this will crush you, but I can’t keep this from you.’ After she dropped the bomb I was like, ‘Hell no! That would never happen!’ and then I confronted my girlfriend about it that night. She broke down and confessed everything.”

“I stayed with that girl for another 7 months and God bless my friend for sticking by my side and supporting the whole way. When I finally ended things, my best friend was still there to support me and care for me. I haven’t dated anyone for longer than 6 months since that happened 7 years ago…It was a rough few years at first but I’ve found my joys and hobbies and have gotten comfortable with myself. I’ve learned to love myself and enjoy the life I have. If a lady wants to join me on the adventure, that’s great. But I’m happy with who I am and where I am.”

This guy caught his girlfriend cheating on him with someone she met at the bar. Credit: Shutterstock

21. Red Flags Everywhere

This Redditor BagHolder11 gave his girlfriend the freedom to go out with her friends. Normally, this is a healthy thing to do in a relationship. But it ended up becoming his undoing. “My ex would frequent this bar close to our place. I rarely went, because I just wasn’t a fan of her drinking buddies. One night she went out with a new couple. I decided to head to the bar to join them. As I walk in, I see my girlfriend sitting at the bar with the couple, and a man I had never seen before. As soon as I made eye contact with my girlfriend, she had this strange look on her face. She talked to the guy sitting next to her, and he immediately got up and left. I felt something strange right away, but I brushed it off as me being irrational. 

I stayed for an hour and headed home, but I couldn’t shake the feeling. So I checked her new friend’s Facebook page. Sure enough, the man at the bar was friends with him. I knew his name now. The next weekend, she went out drinking again and didn’t return home at 4 am. Another day, she came home at 7 am. Finally, I decided to check her phone while she was in the shower. She kept all of the messages with this same guy. Some pretty telling information in the text thread. While she was still showering, I grabbed a fresh pair of clothes and headed to my best friend’s house. Twenty minutes later I get a phone call with her going crazy about me leaving. I told her that if she wasn’t moved out by Monday the police would be there to force her out.

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20. A Child’s Perspective When Their Parent Cheats

A child’s perspective on cheating from FuzzBeebs. This isn’t my story, but my parents. My mom had a boyfriend when my parents met, and she broke up with him to be with my dad. Fast forward ten years or so my parents are married with two kids: my older brother and me. Anyway, she travels for work semi-often and she started taking trips to see her “friend” in Chicago. My dad was really irritable on these weekends. I think I was about twelve when I realized what was going on, when I used to sit at the top of the stairs and listen to my parents argue. It’s always just been a part of my life that my mom lies. Still is. My dad used to beg me to not say anything to her because he was desperate to keep the family together. 

One day, during the summer after I graduated high school, I came home from work to find my mom in the garage loading up her car. I asked her why and she got quiet for a moment and said “well… I’m moving out.” I just went inside. Later she texted my dad that she had moved to her brother’s house. That’s how he found out. They were married for twenty years and she sent him a f-ing text message. I don’t know if she was planning on telling me at all if I hadn’t happened to come home when I did, or if she would have just disappeared.

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19. The ‘Naked Woman Followed Me Home’ Defense 

A woman named SunglassesBright on Reddit tells the story of how she caught her boyfriend with another woman. “I was at work and tried to call my boyfriend, but he wasn’t answering even after a few hours. So I just got a horrible feeling. It stressed me out so badly for some reason that I started to cry and my boss let me go home early. The whole way home, I just kept feeling serious dread. Walked in the house and into my bedroom, and he was laying in bed half-clothed with some naked chick. Obviously, a huge blow up went down.” 

“After everything settled, this motherf- tried to tell me that he went to the movies alone and met her there and she ‘followed him home.’ Like, even if I believe that this person just followed you home and got naked, you let her do it. So what’s the purpose of saying that to me? It was a shi- abusive relationship, and it didn’t even end then. I eventually broke up with him but not on the spot like I should have. If I could change anything about my life, it would be that I wish I broke up with that guy sooner. That was over ten years ago though!” 

The boyfriend’s ridiculous excuse was so funny, it was enough to create a chain of clever jokes in the comments. Thankfully, time and laughter can heal all wounds. Sunglasses Bright responded, “Your responses are f- hilarious! I have never laughed so much about this situation!”

This woman caught her husband cheating with socks. Credit: Shutterstock

18. Soccer Socks

This story by imarangatu is short and sweet, but it gets the job done. This woman figured out a very clever way to catch her husband in his lies about going to so many “soccer games”. (That’s football, for you Europeans out there.)

“A friend of mine was suspicious of her husband cheating, as he went to ‘play soccer with friends’ way too often. He always came home freshly showered. This was suspicious, since he normally came home sweaty after playing. One day she sewed his soccer socks together, and when he came back all showered she saw the socks were still sewed, so he wasn’t playing soccer at all. She later confronted him and he was indeed cheating. ”

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17. Remember That Texts Sync to Your Apple Watch

A Reddit user named RandyJohnson figured out his ex was cheating through the help of technology. “This first started back in December right before we went on a holiday trip to see my family. She started acting somewhat off, kinda distant, and easily aggravated. I had a suspicion that something was going on and I’m embarrassed to admit that I snooped on her iwatch. Found some incriminating texts she had with a friend, so I confronted her in January. She tells me that she kissed a guy that she works with and that was it. We were having some issues in our relationship and I chose to forgive her and we decided to try working on some of the issues we were having.”

“Well, fast forward to this past May…She breaks down that she wasn’t honest with me and that she had actually slept with this other dude. We split afterwards, but we had been together 8 years and had been engaged for almost 2 years. Our wedding date was supposed to be yesterday. It’s still killing me. I don’t even know where to go from here. 2020 can go eat a d-.”

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16. The Secret Family Overseas Leads to a Tragic Ending

A Reddit user called SuperGurlToTheRescue has a heartbreaking story about how she found out her husband was cheating, and was also a bigamist. “I was married. Out of the blue while at work I get an email that says (husbands name) ‘s wife. When I open the email it lists off a name and says (husbands name) married to her. Check on Facebook. English was not her first language, this was overseas. So what I do and what do I see? Tons and tons and tons of pictures of a woman with my husband. The woman, her family, and kids with my husband.”

“I was stunned to say the least. It was October 6th 2017, which was 7 months after I almost died from an ectopic pregnancy. Yep, we were trying at that point to have kids. After work, I went home and started throwing all of his stuff in the dumpster. He was out of town at the time so I had plenty of time to do it. Spent all of Saturday and Sunday throwing EVERYTHING he owned in the dumpster. A month later I moved to a new apartment and waited until then to tell him I was divorcing him. He then killed himself a few months later.”

This story from the 90’s has several crazy coincidences. Credit: Shutterstock

15. Destiny Stepped In

Through a series of synchronicities, the universe revealed that FueGodieGo’s fiancée was cheating. “The story happened in the very early 1990’s. My fiancée Meg had one semester left of college with an internship in Belgium. I stayed home, because the plan was that I would set up our house. When she returned that summer, she would move in, and we would set a date for our wedding. While Meg was in Europe, she called every couple of weeks, and sent me letters. I moved into a brownstone, bought furniture, etc. About two weeks before Meg was supposed to return, I stopped into a nearby coffee house. To my surprise my childhood neighbor, Claire, was a waitress there. We hadn’t seen each other since high school. Claire was engaged to a man named Ben. He was completing his internship in Belgium, too. Crazy, right?”

“A couple days later, I stopped in for a cup of coffee and Claire looked upset. She told me that she had gotten a call from her Aunt Sue the day before. Aunt Sue was touring Europe, and she ran into Claire’s fiancée, Ben, in a hotel lobby with a female companion named Meg. Claire called Ben, and he admitted that he had been seeing Meg the entire time. I called my fiancée, and point blank asked Meg if she was dating Ben. I didn’t even explain how I knew about it. At first, she acted like I was insane. But then eventually admitted it. To this day I revel in how many utterly astounding factors of complete random coincidence went into Meg and Ben. They later married, then later divorced after he cheated on her. The universe works in incredible and mysterious ways.”

Technology is behind how this woman was caught cheating. Credit: Shutterstock

14. Notifications from the iPad and Nest Security System Is Why His Wife was Caught Cheating

A man named JuiceGooseBoost caught his wife cheating through modern technology. “My wife was a dog walker, and would go out on late night walks. The pictures from her phone were synced to the kid’s iPad. One day, my daughter asked me, ‘Daddy, who is this?’ I left with the kids to go see my mom. After she denies it, I get a Nest notification that there’s movement in the apartment. Open the app, the guy is there. Got to hear and watch them have sex. I could only sit and breathe very heavily in anger. I called her, and she denies it. She says she’s at work, even though I could see her live through the Nest camera. I found out who he was through her Facebook likes. Messaged him with all of our family pictures. He just sent a thumbs up and blocked me. 

“Then I found his business website ironically, as a life coach. Email him, he writes a huge apology email saying she lied to him. I tried to forgive her for the kids. But then, on a Saturday morning, I want to take the kids to the park. She has to “work.”  Still has her iPad synced to her phone. We get back, kids want to FaceTime grandma. I opened the app, I saw she called him when she was at work. Finally fesses up. Huge fight, then she blames me, saying a wife with a good husband wouldn’t cheat. Then she hits me in front of the kids, throws my phone and keys off a fourth floor balcony. I moved out. It sucks because I have to deal with her the rest of my life for the kids.”

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13. Alpha Single

A young woman named Pocket_Ninja456 noticed texts coming on on her boyfriend’s phone was all it took for him to be caught cheating. “I looked at his phone when it went off and saw it was a young girl. Typical conversation like, ‘hey how was your day?’  sort of stuff. When he came back I asked him who she was. He blew up and began yelling at me that I was invading his space and he has a right to talk to whomever he wants. When I asked, I wasn’t even assuming that he was cheating. But he ran out of the room and deleted the messages. I followed and asked if that was his dealer, since I thought he was planning to relapse on heroin. He was still super defensive and began arguing with me. So I got up and left.”

“This fighting went on for a few weeks, and I just wanted us to go back to normal. Then, he finally admitted he cheated. All I wanted for us to stay together was an apology. Our final phone conversation I said, ‘Please just apologize. You don’t even have to mean it, I just want us back together again!’ (Mind you, I was NOT in a good place emotionally and self esteem wise.) Divine intervention must have struck me because his response was, ‘I’m an alpha male, and alpha males do what they want.’ And I was so blown away by how far I’d fallen in respecting myself that the first thing I said was, ‘Well you alpha single now.’ I do regret looking at his phone. But I don’t regret that it pushed me out of a failing relationship.”

This woman found out that her ex was spending hundreds of dollars on cam girls. Credit: Shutterstock

12. He Gave Away Half Her Monthly Salary Paying For Nude Pictures

A woman who goes by the name of PMMelreses on Reddit describes her toxic relationship. “Boyfriend asked me to look for something on his computer. I couldn’t find it at first. While waiting for clear instructions, I see a message in the corner talking about how she misses him or whatever. I was curious what she was talking about when she sent a picture. Weird. Well I clicked on it. Through Facebook, he had been talking to 100+ women. All of them are either sending him pictures of their bodies or thanking him for the money. I’m sorry, what now?”

“Digging further into it, there’s a link. It’s to some money sending site similar to PayPal. I click to see the history. It shows 4 total pages. 20 items per page. We’ve been together for 15 years. We have a child. I’m on disability, he doesn’t work. He’s sent over $500 usd in exchange for nude pictures. That’s over half my monthly paycheck. I’m furious. I’ve literally told him, watch porn, talk to other women, I don’t care. He’s lied saying he’s never talked to anyone before while he’s lying the entire time. The best part is we broke up, I got cancer, he moved back in, all while doing this. For over 7 years.”

A visitor revealed the fact that her husband was having an affair. Credit: Shutterstock

11. A Knock on the Door

A Reddit user who calls herself Headcase-and-a-half tells the story of the day she found out her husband was cheating. “June 1, 2018. Normal day. A Friday. My husband had kissed me goodbye and gone to work. I was cleaning the house for a friend who was coming to stay the weekend. The doorbell rang. There was a man at my door who introduced himself as the husband of a woman who my husband worked with. He was there to tell me that my husband and his wife were having an affair. Six months prior, this man caught them, and told his wife that she had to end the affair. 

“He thinks that she did end it…for about three months. But then they started up again. When he found out they were at it again, he called my husband (because he knew if he confronted him in person, he’d be in a jail cell for what he’d have done). On the phone, he told my husband to leave his wife alone or else he would come and tell me everything that was happening. Apparently, my husband thought that he was bluffing. So I was literally the last to know. My husband never came home again. He got an AirBnB and a lawyer. The divorce was December 21, 2018. We had been together for 24 years. Still hurts.”

This woman found her man with someone else upstairs. Credit: Shutterstock

10. A Noise Upstairs

A woman named dddalllasss tells a horrifying story of the night she discovered her fiancé with another woman. “I owned a house with my fiancé. One night, I woke up and he wasn’t in bed. I went searching. His truck and another vehicle were in the driveway. Then, I went upstairs and found the guest bedroom was locked. After barging my way in… I found him with another woman in bed. That bed happened to be my childhood bed.” 

“He forced me out of the room… literally grabbed me by the neck and pushed me out and closed the door back. I knew I couldn’t do anything at that point, so I called his parents who lived a few blocks away. His dad showed up and another fight broke out. I ended up leaving and staying with his parents until dawn, and moved out that weekend. We let the house foreclose, and I never looked back. Nine years later, it’s finally off my credit report. I’m happily married to an amazing man and we own a beautiful home together.”

Condoms went missing for years, and yet they didn’t consider this as being caught cheating. Credit: Shutterstock

9. The Missing Condoms Add Up

A man on Reddit who goes by the name Affable-Moon tells the story of how he found out about his fiancée’s affair. “In a relationship for 6 years, and I broke up one month before our wedding because I found out my fiancée had cheated on me. Two years into my relationship, lots of suspicious little acts kept adding up. The biggest one being that I found some condoms were missing from my drawer. I confronted my fiancée, and I was very sad, angry, and confused. She denied any affair. Four years went by. About a month before our wedding, she broke down and confessed that she had indeed slept with her ex boyfriend at the time. That broke my heart. I had always had a bad feeling that she had been lying to me over the years.”

“She also had an undying jealousy towards all of my friends who are women; clearly projecting. It hurt that she had cheated on me, but hurt way worse that she lied to me for four years. I’m grateful that she told me before the wedding. We called it off due to the mistrust, amongst many other things that weren’t going well in our relationship. I genuinely believe that she was going through some really heavy emotional turmoil. So I don’t take it so personally. With that said, I have cut off all communication to her because I simply could not trust her after that. All’s well that ends well; and have met the love of my life, and we plan to get married as soon as this Covid-19 takes a hike and it’s safe to gather in groups again.”

This woman was the last person in her social circle to find out her husband was having an affair. Credit: Shutterstock

8. The Last to Know

A woman on Reddit called EndlessNite tells her tragic story of how her husband was cheating on her. “I was 8 months pregnant with our second child. He wanted to go visit his brother for the weekend. I understood why he’d want to go alone, because a new baby really makes it hard to spend quality time. But I asked if he could take our 3-year-old son so he could see his grandma and cousins. He said they were planning on drinking, shooting, and hunting with his brother, and wasn’t sure it would be a good idea for our son to be around. I agreed and he left for the weekend. After he left, I got a call from his best friend telling me that he’ll be in town for the weekend, and he wanted to meet up with my husband.” 

“My husband was terrible at answering his phone. I told him unfortunately my husband was visiting back home for the whole weekend, so it was bad timing. His best friend then said ‘Ok, I’m going to call you back’, and hung up very abruptly. Turns out my husband and his best friend’s wife had been caught cheating a few months previously. His best friend gave them a chance to make it right…I don’t know why. He threatened to tell me if they didn’t stop. Well, they didn’t stop and he told me. The worst part was that my husband’s entire family knew and never told me. These people were my family for 5 years and nothing. It’s been almost 10 years now and I’m so much happier but it was definitely an eye opening experience.”

This woman found out her husband was involved in a secret threesome. Credit: Shutterstock

7. The Secret Threesome

A Redditor who goes by the name of Shomzy told the story of how one phone call changed everything. “The husband of one of the women he was cheating on me with called me at work. At first I didn’t believe him and hung up. How could the man I spent the past 8 years with do something so hurtful? Still a part of me had doubt. He had affairs in other relationships.  We also had a rocky patch early in the beginning where I suspected an affair but didn’t have proof. I told my boss I felt sick and had to leave early.”

“I called this guy back and found out that my ex and his wife along with one of their friends were all sleeping together in a threesome for about a year. He had confronted my ex and told him that he was going to tell me. But my ex convinced him to wait a month since my mother had just died. I took my time coming home and confronted him and told him to pack and leave. Since then, I’ve pieced together a lot of what happened and all the lies he told me. If I was in a different headspace I might have caught on to the affairs earlier. I also found videos hidden on one of our computers. He was having booty calls in our apartment while my daughter was home. At that point, it put the headstone on any possibility of reconciliation.

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6. This Leech Wasn’t Even Subtle About Having an Affair

In this story by JustPartOfTheTerrain, her husband barely tried to hide his affair. “My now ex husband casually mentioned that his coworker (a woman) was having marriage difficulties. I told him at that point to be careful because she might be using him as her reason to end her marriage. Maybe a month goes by and he decides to go on a long road trip ‘to do his own thing’. On his way out of the house he asks me, ‘Do I look okay?’ Since he talked about his coworker so much, I had put a keylogger on his PC. Sure enough, they were together on the road trip, and he was telling her about all the nice things he wanted to buy her. I called her husband. He filed for divorce right away. But I forgave my husband and tried to work it out.” 

“Several years later, my husband starts staying up later after I go to bed, and gets up before me.  Again, I get those concerns he’s cheating. I check the phone bill and there are so many calls to this one number. This time I didn’t try to work it out. He had been unemployed for 2 years, claimed he was looking for a job, and did zero around the house. This time, he denied the affair. But I just said it didn’t matter.  I wanted a divorce. Turns out I was right, and he moved in with her as soon as I filed. He even had the audacity to ask my lawyer for alimony. Last I heard from his sister, he still doesn’t work. He and his new wife live off of the divorce settlement she received from her ex-husband, which is now running out.”

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5. This Woman Discovered Her Husband Was Juggling Multiple Wives

A Redditor who goes by the name ZomeZingOrOther tells this crazy story. “I had my suspicions. We were expats living in Singapore, and he was supposed to go out of town. Barely said goodbye to me or our 2 children. I looked out the window and saw him get into a woman’s car. Later I got a phone call from a woman who said she was his fiance. She worked for the airline and found that he was traveling with another woman. Later, I found a receipt for a high-end store in his briefcase. He told me that I was not even allowed to buy clothing for myself. They looked up the receipt and said ‘Oh yes Mr. Z, he was here with his Thai wife’. She looked up at me, waited a few beats, and then her face just fell.” 

“The woman at the airline has two children with him, and Thai woman had one child with him. Keep in mind I hadn’t lived in the states for 10 years, and I didn’t have a driver’s license. I had no credit, and no money. Eventually I packed bags, hid them away and tried to figure out how to get back to the United States. He had the bright idea one day that I needed to go visit my parents, and bought me a one way ticket. I figured he was never going to let me come back. He married a Singaporean woman. I know for a fact he was engaged to someone else for 4 years while they were married. After scamming her out of hundreds of thousands of dollars, he dumped her and moved to a different country. He is married again with two children.”

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4. The Secret Snapchat

A user by the name of -Meow found out her boyfriend had a secret life on social media. “Hanging out with my boyfriend one day, I saw a message thread while he was on his computer on Snapchat to a group of friends. I noticed it was not the same Snapchat I had for him. I didn’t say anything at that moment, but remembered the username. Later, I decided to try to log in to his account. Voila, the same password he used for everything worked. There were HUNDREDS of chats with different women. I scrolled through the messages and realized this dated back for around 3 years. Even on my birthday and our anniversaries- days where he spent the entire day with me- he still managed to do this behind my back.”

“I called him and demanded he come talk to me. When he arrived, I confronted him. He panicked and immediately started apologizing. Livid, I took his phone and drove to my best friend’s house. There, I found he had signed up for every dating app available with messages from multiple women on all of them. My boyfriend posted videos of himself jerking off on Vine and even responded to local Craigslist ads for sex. He desperately tried to redeem himself, changed his number, cleared his phone and got a flip phone. But you can’t come back from that kind of damage. The entire 4 year relationship, I had absolutely no idea. He never did anything sketchy, and we rarely fought. I was so in love with him. Turns out, of course, he was just great at hiding everything. I never saw it coming.”

She named her other boyfriend “Jennifer” in her phone. Credit: Shutterstock

3. She Clearly Wasn’t Raised Right

A Redditor called Guy_Code realized that his college girlfriend never broke up with her ex from back home. “College girlfriend and we lived together for a year. I realized she would always have her phone on silent or just plain ignore calls from ‘Jennifer.’ One day I wrote down the number and called it a week later. It ends up being her high school boyfriend who she had never broken up with before she came to college. Neither of us knew about each other.”

“She had been visiting him when she went home to see her parents on some weekends and breaks. I broke up with her soon after. Her mom even had the audacity to reach out to me and say that ‘Sometimes you just have to accept things.’ And how I owed her daughter an apology for breaking up with her. It got worse, but that was the gist.”

This man’s ex ended up in a pyramid scheme. So she got what she deserved. Credit: Shutterstock

2. Being Caught Up in a Pyramid Scheme is Her True Karma

This next story by EBone12355 is actually hilarious. “Walked in on my girlfriend while she was having sex with another guy. ‘What are you doing here?!’ she says. ‘You gave me a key, remember? I ended up not working today and wanted to surprise you.’ 15 years later she reaches out, leaving me a message that she’d like to talk. I figure she’s doing some 12-step thing or something and wants to make amends. Nope. She wanted to try and sell me on Amway.”

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1. And The Winner For Worst Cheating Story Goes To…

A Redditor named DMukai tells a story of how one of his coworkers found out his wife was cheating in the most humiliating way possible. “One of my former co-workers loaded in a SD card with a scanned project file on it. He put it into the conference room, PC and we were treated to naked pics of his wife fucking another guy. We were just stunned. This was in a senior budgetary meeting with the outside accountants and auditors. He was sitting right there and we were looking at his wife and another guy going at it.”

“I reached over and shut the projector off. Nobody said anything. He got up and walked out and drove off in his car. Left his cell phone and laptop sitting on the table. He wound up driving to his parents house 3 states away. He was gone for a week.”