7. Certain exes seem to have missed a few potty training lessons.
When it comes to toilet hygiene, some things need never be spoken between two people in a romantic relationship. Cannelle shares a nauseating and highly disturbing story about their ex-boyfriend’s inadequate bathroom behaviors: “My ex never properly wiped his [butt], so his underwear always had these horrendous streaks on them. When I asked him about it once, he got hugely [ticked] off at me and told me those weren’t [s*&!] stains and streak marks. They were just butt sweat. He also got really pissed off when I asked why he didn’t sweat brown anywhere else on his body.Nice guy.”
Ahylianhero had eerily similar, just-as-disgusting experiences as Cannelle: “My ex would only halfway wipe his [butt]. We got to the point where we were comfortable enough to use the bathroom with the other in the room, so there were times where we’d talk while pooping. One day, I was wiping, and he seemed really grossed out that I check my toilet paper after I wipe, and I explained, ‘I don’t stop wiping until the toilet paper comes up clean.’ He told me he just guesses at these things.”
6. Some personal matters should never go public, especially when they involve genitals. That’s gross.
In cis heterosexual relationships, it can be hard for a person of one sex to understand the behaviors of the other. It’s no secret that many women don’t get why men touch themselves so brazenly. The issue is even worse when the man touches himself in public, as Keysarecool describes: “My ex would touch/fiddle with/adjust his genitals in public, I think he thinks no one notices but everyone does. Also, he would touch his [butt] and not wash his hands until I begged for him to. He had no sense of smell and could not tell how putrid his swamp-[butt] was.”
Neostorm360’s friend faced a similar gross problem that ended her relationship: “Not my ex, but a friend’s. She claimed that anytime he was naked (in the shower, bedroom, whatever), he would pinch his ball sack and rub it between his thumb and other fingers. What’s weird is that he apparently didn’t know he was doing it, just some sort of weird nervous habit.”
5. Public displays of affection can be gross, and really do belong in the bedroom.
The age-old argument over the appropriate level of PDA is more than just a debate — it can actually be a relationship-ender for some couples. Take fluffywhereareyou’s uncomfortable story: “[My ex had a bad habit of] grabbing and groping me in public. I can handle signs of affection like holding hands and cuddling, but this guy used to [do a] full grope while we were walking down the street. [He’d] just grab a boob or a butt cheek and not let go until I physically made him. When I asked him why he felt the need to do that, he told me it was because he wanted to show everyone that I was his. So… bye.”
Vault101’s response may one-up fluffywhereareyou’s story, given the toll on her mental health: “[My ex] would constantly like… tickle my girl parts whenever I got out of a car or whenever he was coming up the stairs behind me. I hated it so much. I think he thought it was fun and sexy or something, but I told him I didn’t like it, and he just kept doing it, saying, ‘Come on, it’s me.’ I have pretty brutal anxiety, and it really didn’t help.” Do you agree that this behavior is gross in public? Maybe not so much…
4. Two’s a company, three’s a crowd, three-plus multiple pets is too much.
DoctorDank tells of a much-too-crowded situation that ended his relationship. Some wouldn’t mind, but others find this really gross! “One time, the girl I was seeing invited me over for dinner and to stay the night. Now, she lived in a different city than I did, and as I didn’t have a car at the time, this meant arranging transportation from my friend’s [place] and paying for gas money, so no mean feat. As I arrived, I was informed that her new roommate didn’t have a bed, and she would be sharing the king-sized bed with us. ‘No big deal,’ I thought, ‘If we’re gonna get down, we’ll do it on the couch after the roommate [goes] to bed.
WRONG. No sexy times for me. So after dinner, I listened to some of her (bad) poetry and then was informed she was tired and was going to sleep. Oh, and guess who shares the bed? All three cats that lived there, and her Rottweiler. So that’s three people, three cats, and a dog, all in one bed. I don’t think I’ve ever had a worse night of sleep in my life, and I never saw her again.”
Want to talk about something gross? Let’s talk about the mama’s boy concept. The mama’s boy trope exists for a reason: to all S.O.s’ chagrin, mama’s boys are far too real. These men’s boys’ behavior can reach an irreconcilable extreme to the point where it may seem like he has a crush on his own mother. Mackattack1015 describes such an experience: “Here’s a good one. My ex was overly attached to his mother to the point where it was weird. He used nicknames for her like ‘sweetheart’ and ‘babe.’ It was downright creepy.”
Mystik-Spiral’s ex also knew no boundaries with his mother: “My [ex’s] mother hated me so, in what I can only assume was a display of dominance, she waddled down the [stair] steps (she was as round as she was tall) in her pajamas (read: long t-shirt). She then turned around and had him take her bra off her. His excuse? Her nails were too long, and she was too large to reach around and do it herself. I pointed out that she could do what all women do and bring the straps off her shoulders and turn the bra around to unhook it in the front. He did not agree with me.”
2. Arguments over money never bode well, especially if one person wastes it all.
Constant disagreements over finances are a bad sign for any couple — there’s a reason they’re considered a top contributor to breakups. Combine these arguments with people’s hugely differing home temperature preferences, and you have a recipe for disaster. Sure this type of behavior might not be gross in the physical sense. BlorfMonger shares their hot-and-cold situation: “[My girlfriend] would turn the A.C. up on high, and then get a space heater and point it at her toes. No…she never paid any power bills.” Needless to say, that relationship ended up completely cold.
Blorfmonger’s story attracted sympathy. Apostolate commiserated, stating: “I don’t know what’s wrong with some people. It’s suddenly too hot, too cold… If I leave my windows shut unless it’s like 90 or 20 I don’t even need A.C./heating. Put on a [godd*%&] sweater.” kmwhite disagreed with their temperature preferences, but at least owned up to contributing to the electric bills: “I prefer it to 65F, but I’ve adopted all the power bills. I know my preferences rack up the bill; no one should have to pay for that except me.” The moral to this story: if financial responsibility is one-sided, the relationship may not be destined to last.
Sleep talking is one of a range of behaviors that can occur while sleeping, such as walking and eating, to name a couple. Talking during sleep is usually low-key but can sometimes intensify to a disruptive point in relationships. After all, healthy couples typically sleep in the same bed, and unwanted occurrences can unravel a relationship. Waynechang92 describes how his ex’s sleep talking became intolerable: “My ex had this thing where she would have mini-seizures in her sleep. She would just randomly start vibrating and shaking for a little bit. Also, she sometimes sleep talked. She once sat up in her sleep and shouted, ‘MATH IS EXCELLENT!’ and went back to sleep.
Then there was the time she woke me up because she was talking in her sleep. When I tried to find out what was wrong, my completely unprepared solar plexus received a full-force punch. She didn’t remember a thing.” Another Redditor, Kellianne, describes her marriage going the way of Waynechang92’s relationship: “My husband started talking in his sleep about six months ago. It is loud and startling. Sometimes just a word or two and sometimes a [freaking] conversation. I got very little sleep, and we now sleep in different rooms.”