It’s often tricky to navigate the journey of sharing your life with another person, but it can be worth the effort if you find the right person. Other times, though, it most certainly is not worth it. The following Reddit stories will have you thanking your lucky stars for your relationship — unless, of course, you find yourself in a similar situation. Sure, we all can get a little lazy and toss a shirt in a chair instead of the laundry basket. However, these gross stories really emphasize how adhering to household chores and personal hygiene are so important. Check out these 30 times Redditors had to break up with their boo because of gross habits. If you find yourself being like one of these Redditors, please try to break any of these disgusting patterns!
30. Some people don’t mind dirty dishes unless they’re crusted with old food.
It’s common for two people to disagree over how to wash dishes. Maybe one person likes to hand wash, while the other only uses the dishwasher. For yosupdood, his predicament was far more sinister: “Rather than washing dishes, my ex would just pile them up and simply put them back in the cupboard . . . I once asked for a pan, [and] she told me to look in a drawer. All her pans had an inch-thick crust of unknown food from God knows when. I asked her why she didn’t do dishes, and she just said she didn’t feel like it. I had to sit there for fifteen mins and pick at the crust just so I could make breakfast. We broke up.”
Ran0mSynth3sis has a similar story: “My ex used to make food (like Mexican rice, for example) and eat it straight out of the pot or pan he made it in. Not a huge deal in and of itself, but he would then leave the pan (half-eaten food still in it) and just put it on the floor or on top of the T.V. or end table . . . These items would not be cleaned up or removed until I did it. Needless to say, the place stunk.” No problem eating out of the pot directly. That goes double if you are the only one dining. In fact, it actually saves dirty dishes. However, leaving the half-eaten pots around the house is a bit strange. Did he think the dish fairy picked them up each night?
29. If your partner has a contest in the bathroom, it may be time to let them go.
Mswench describes her partner, who completely lacked awareness: “So many beautiful examples from my previous relationship. Here are some of my favorites: [Touching himself] all day in my room while I was at work/actually [freaking] doing something with my life, then leaving his napkins hidden throughout the room. After not showering for a few days, he’d sit around naked and play with [himself] and then smell his hands; insisting on coming into the bathroom with me at all times. If I wasn’t using the toilet, he’d take the most [butt] [s*&!] humanly possible and then refuse to flush it until I looked in the toilet and acknowledged its glory.
He was counting toilet paper sheets. He’d basically rate his [s*&!] on a scale of how many sheets of toilet paper he’d need; [that] look in his eyes when he ate any meat with bones in it. Wings, ribs, you name it. He’d just mow the [s*&!] out of it, have food covering the entire bottom half of his face, and make grunting sounds the entire time, picking his nose, inspecting the schnogs, then wiping them on the walls. Regardless of location.” Okay, wow. We hate to say it, but that was a mouthful *gag*. Guys, take notes here. Flush the toilet, stop counting toilet paper squares, use a napkin, and please — for the love of God — use a tissue and wash your hands!
28. Popping pimples is a no-no for anyone but especially when another person does it for you.
Most of us have been warned since puberty not to touch our pimples since it only worsens the blemishes. But we were never warned that we might someday have an SO who does the grotesque act for us. Needless to say, these gestures are often unwelcome. [deleted] talks about their misfortunes with an ex who popped his pimples: “My ex-girlfriend from a couple of years ago had this unhealthy obsession with popping my pimples. Granted, acne has never been a huge problem for me, so every time a pimple would pop up, it’d stand out like a sore thumb on my otherwise silky smooth canvas of a face… and boy did she ever take notice.
I feel like I’m hardly exaggerating when I say it was an obsession. As soon as she saw a pimple on me, she would not let me be until it had been dealt with. She’d start poking and prodding at my face, asking me outright if she could pop it, and sometimes even trying to pop pimples in my sleep. Luckily for me, we broke up, and she started dating somebody with much more acne than me. I almost feel bad for the guy. Almost.” This pimple-popping habit is actually pretty popular. Some people get it, and some don’t. Those who don’t may ask why are you mutilating your own face and skin? Those who enjoy it find a great satisfaction when they burst and shoot out goo. Gross! Which team are you on when it comes to popping pimples?
27. When a partner’s actions pose a health hazard, it’s time to get out.
Projectedwinner’s boyfriend had such rotten food habits (pun intended) that they could not even eat out of his fridge. “Ex-boyfriend would get cheese out of the fridge to let it get to room temperature, then leave it out all day so it’d get all sweaty and warm and rubbery. He’d get drunk, forget to put the cheese away overnight, and then pop it back in the fridge the next morning when he got up as if that [s*&!] might ever again be fit to eat. He would cut the mold off, even on soft cheese, and happily nosh away. Expired stuff, deli meat and eggs, and milk all in his fridge. I refused to eat anything at his house that we didn’t buy at the grocery store while I was there, and I never ate any cheese that I didn’t open myself.”
Awkwardbabble, on the other hand, doesn’t find the cheese issue much of an issue at all. “[There] actually is absolutely nothing wrong with cutting the mold off of cheese and eating the non-moldy parts. Cheese, by means of the way it’s processed and made, pretty much DOESN’T expire if it’s stored properly.” Maybe they should date projectedwinner’s ex. To be fair, there are different types of mold. Green mold can grow on a piece of bread or cheese. If you cut the piece off, then you could eat the rest of the food without worry. Obviously, mold on something like strawberries doesn’t pass the smell test for this little trick. Likewise, black mold is much more harmful to your health than green mold. Black mold develops in dark, wet places and can lead to wheezing, itchy eyes, a stuffy nose, and more severe issues depending on your sensitivity to molds.
26. Trashing a significant other’s living space is a deal-breaker.
Captain_apostrophe talks about the physical and emotional toll that a partner’s trash habits can cause. Granted, this SO’s habits appear as they came straight from a dumpster: “When my ex moved out (re: bailed one day without saying anything to anybody, let alone me) of my parents’ house (yes, I was conned into THAT kind of relationship), the room he’d been occupying was a sty. Apparently, he never threw away any rubbish during his entire stay. So, cleaning up that mess was physically hard as well as emotionally.”
Bonafried discusses their boyfriend’s “out of sight, out of mind” approach to trash: “He hid garbage like chip bags or wrappers [in] places where he can’t see it instead of putting it into the trash can like a normal person. If I took the trash out of hiding and lay it on his desk, he freaked out and said, ‘Why did you make a mess on my desk??’ It’s like if something is out of view, it isn’t there. It’s just stupid and gross. Life would be 99% more pleasant with a partner who has healthy, conscious, [and respectful habits].”
25. Refusing to use the proper disposal method doesn’t just stop with trash — it happens with pee, too.
Worse than not putting regular trash in a garbage bin is the dirty sin of not using a restroom to dispose of bodily fluids. NinjaKTron explains their dilemma with an ex: “My ex lived in the attic of his parent’s house, and the only bathroom was downstairs so, out of sheer laziness, he would piss into soda bottles rather than just walk down the stairs. Instead of disposing of these bottles, he would hide them around his room. Occasionally a top would not get put on all the way, and a bottle would get knocked over, so his room perpetually smelled like pee — human pee. He was 33 years old. I feel like this is relevant to the story.”
[deleted] had all too similar an experience, explaining, “[My ex-boyfriend would pee in water bottles and then just leave them in his room. Yes, he was THAT lazy.” Unsurprisingly, Redditors were very incensed by these stories. [deleted] ’s response sums up the sentiment: “What in the [effing eff]. Who are these people that do these terrible, disgusting things? I can almost understand it from a pure laziness factor. But how little do [they] care about what other people think of them that they’re willing to do that?”
24. Leaving unclean clothes lying around creates “dirty laundry” in the relationship.
Ran0mSynth3sis tells how their partner’s inability to put away her clothes led to their breakup. “[My ex] was notorious for leaving discarded items of clothing (pants, socks, shoes, etc.) in random areas of the apartment and not going back later to pick them up or wash them. His complete lack of respect for me (who objected to always cleaning up after him) and our ‘home’ definitely played a large role in our eventual separation.”
[deleted] is another heartbroken by clothing: “My ex was incapable of putting her clothes away. And she did modeling/photography for a living, so there was a [frick] ton of clothes littering the apartment all the time. Every time she would leave town, I’d put everything away for her, only to have it return to a mess when she returned. The worst part is, our cat was [peeing] on her clothes piles. Obviously, she was [mad] at the cat. I told her that if the clothes weren’t lying there, the cat wouldn’t be able to [pee] on them. She still blamed the cat. We separated, and I took the cat. The only place the cat [pees] now is in her litter.”
23. Some natural body processes can be gross — and cause too much stink in the relationship.
Kisstheeclipse talks about their smelly misadventures with their ex: “[My ex] farted constantly, and it was rank . . . I asked him once if he’d start helping out around the house more, and he farted at me and walked away laughing. I love living by myself.” Despite kisstheeclipse’s unfortunate experiences, their story set off a discussion among Redditors on whether it actually is okay to fart in front of your SO. [deleted] responds: [It’s] the person you’re going to be spending the rest of your life with, [and] my girlfriend isn’t capable of grossing me out. I wouldn’t want my girlfriend holding in her farts if it was painful, [f*&^] that.”
On the other hand, another [deleted] argues, “[How] exactly is farting around each other an indicator of a good marriage? What’s the logic behind that? It’s not that I/[my fiancé] don’t feel comfortable. It’s that it’s nasty to smell someone else’s farts. I don’t get why everyone else seems to be okay with that.” It appears the jury is still out on whether or not farting in front of one another is a relationship deal-breaker. What do you think? Is it gross enough to call it quits?
22. And not all body changes are natural or healthy, causing the other partner distress.
As we age, our bodies naturally change, and usually not for the better — we get wrinkles, saggy in various places, maybe a pouch. But extreme weight gain can really harm a relationship, especially when one person attempts to communicate their concern and the other doesn’t listen. One_Peanut_Cookie explains their experience: “My ex was gaining an unhealthy amount of weight — so I told him that I was worried about his health. He ignored me and continued to gain weight. To my knowledge, he now weighs about 170 kilograms [370 pounds].
He also once choked me while I was driving, and we were having an argument — ironically, about how poorly he’d been treating me. He regretted it the instant I pulled over and threw his stupid fat [butt] out of the car, knowing he didn’t have any money for an Uber or a cab. [He] deserved it. This was the Australian summer too, so it was not a pleasant day.” It sounds like One_Peanut_Cookie got their revenge on a boyfriend whose weight was a symptom of a deeper, more aggressive issue.”
21. Gross eating habits die hard, along with the relationship…
Projected winner went through a painful challenge with her SO. “I have a high threshold for … idiosyncrasy… but I had a boyfriend who would eat the equivalent of at least two large meals for each meal, and who encouraged me in a jarringly “feeder-y” sort of way to eat as much as he did. Which, of course, I couldn’t manage despite having the capacity to really pack away delicious food. I made salads for my (three) kids and us one night, and the kids and I had a salad from the salad bowl, and he alone ate from a salad bowl of the same size as the kids’ and my salad. His portions exceeding the combined portions for the kids and me were common. He was, unsurprisingly, quite overweight, to the point where he couldn’t find a belt that fits, and he wore suspenders every day.
So if you are curious about what idiosyncrasy is all about, then you aren’t alone. It has to do with have peculiar traits or distinctive features. Furthermore, idiosyncrasy can describe certain behaviors that most people think are unusual. Since this user already had a high tolerance for quirky or even slightly annoying attitudes, she had a lot of patience with her significant other. However, one can only imagine that this characteristic of overeating would deeply affect his appearance as well.
20. … even when one person gives a sincere effort to help their partner.
Projected winner continues, explaining her honorable attempts to encourage a healthier lifestyle. “I tried to encourage him to undertake a lifestyle change with me, hoping a) he would stop giving me gross amounts of food for myself and 2) that he would learn to moderate himself. However, it didn’t take until I broke up with him because watching him eat grossed me out and I had gained fifteen pounds whilst dating him. He would offer me an enormous portion, or offer to buy a second meal for us to split while we were out, and I would refuse and say, ‘One person, one portion,’ and try to get him to split one single entrée with me, or only one appetizer rather than three.
It was revolting and the primary reason I broke up with him. He told me after we broke up that he didn’t make an effort to lose weight because he “knew [I] loved [him] no matter what,” but once he didn’t have a girlfriend, knowing that nobody else was going to deal with him eating family-sized portions for himself, he dropped sixty pounds. He got a new girlfriend. Weight’s back for both him and her.”
19. When a boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t tell the full truth, that truth may be nauseating.
Fearlessandinventive talks about “trickle-truthing,” which involves revealing a little bit of the truth at a time until the full (infuriating) story comes out: “I didn’t realize this was disgusting until later and realized there was a name for this: trickle-truthing . . .[The following] is how the story progressed over a few years: He woke up with this girl in his bed after a party at the house he was sharing with friends, but he had no idea who she was or how she got there. Did he mention he wasn’t wearing pants when he woke up? Because he wasn’t wearing pants when he woke up, but he’s pretty sure ‘nothing happened.’
Oh, he totally knows who she was, and while I was visiting, he took me to a Halloween party at her apartment, which consisted of about six people sitting around awkwardly, us having a drink, then leaving. She also might have been topless. Or naked. Or something. But he’s pretty sure nothing happened. Then, after we broke up… Yeah, he knew exactly who she was because they had a class together, and she had a crush on him. She gave him a blow job that night. Then he introduced me to her later because [it probably] gave him a thrill.”
18. Outright dishonesty is an even tougher pill to swallow.
Do you consider lying a gross behavior? Lying is never a harbinger of a successful relationship. Healthy couples create a solid foundation through a combination of many things — communication, trust, respect — but underpinning all of those characteristics is honesty. So when a partner blatantly fibs or behaves like someone else, the other person is warranted to feel alarmed. While it’s possible to work through these issues, sometimes they’re irreconcilable or just plain freaky. SpiralRavine shared his experience with an ex’s quirky trait, which quickly became a deeper issue in their relationship.
“My ex did not have a consistent tone of voice. It seemed like the more people that were in the group we were with, the higher her voice got as if she was trying to get more attention and be a more important member of the group. When we were alone, though, she was relatively calm. It was weird.” That sounds like a lot packed into one box. And it seems as though someone labeled that box Pandora because he doesn’t want to open it. It seems as though he didn’t want to touch this topic with a 12-foot pole, and ended the relationship. Not only is changing your voice a bit of a poser thing to do, but the time he explained doesn’t help. Does she want to suck all the attention of of the room?
17. Abominable dental hygiene can rot more than just teeth.
Sometimes forgetting to brush your teeth is forgivable, but what if your SO never brushed? Tooth brushing is a key component of personal hygiene, so never brushing could be a sign of more disturbing habits. Oaktree3’s explains their frustrations with an ex-husband (emphasis on “ex” ): “This is shameful. My ex-husband never brushed his teeth. But somehow, this knowledge bypassed me until we were married. He would go lengths of time with no tooth brushing at all! I noticed his toothbrush was never wet, and that got me suspicious, so I asked him one night if he had brushed.
He said no, but didn’t back it up with any sort of reason. This went on for a few days, and then I asked him, ‘When was the last time you brushed?’ He said, ‘I think brushing your teeth encourages cavities to grow.’ Also, he said it makes him gag, and that is why he can’t chew gum either. [He says] he has a super sensitive gag reflex. He could not put things in his mouth past his first molars without gagging. He said even French kissing is difficult for him. I just. No.”
16. Dirty hands can only lead to an unclean relationship.
No this story doesn’t involve dirty hands because someone was working hard. Putting in a solid effort on the job is great! This confession comes from her boyfriend just being gross. pikachuSmilez describes more than just an unpleasant smell coming from her ex, but a lack of basic respect: “[My ex] not showering for weeks at a time [forced me to break up with him], mainly because all he did was eat, visit [the loo], and play video games. Literally nothing else. He flunked uni and got kicked out and kept on lying to everyone about his so-called future career in law. And I love video games, but seriously, he did nothing else but them, and in the end, not even me.”
Avi_’s shares a similar story, with the same disappointing ending: “[My ex] worked at a mechanic shop and had black oil all over his hands. Even if he washed, it would still be hiding under his nails and in the cracks in his skin. He would tell me his hands were clean and then try to [touch] me. [EFF] NO. Also, he refused to go down on me because ‘it’s gross,’ but wanted blowies all the time. I’m pretty sure I kept myself cleaner than he did. [Eff] that noise.” Do you think that is gross or acceptable?
15. General sloppiness is gross — and a turn-off to romance and relationship success.
Mechchic84 and Darkcutter share stories that make dirty teeth seem tolerable. Mechchic84 describes: “There [were] lots of nasty things my ex did. [He] left [puke] in my tub for at least three days because I was sick of cleaning up his messes. He only cleaned it up after I threatened to move to a hotel. I know he didn’t bathe the entire time [the puke] was there . . . He carried cigarette butts in his pockets until they would fill up and spill all over the house. [He also refused] to eat leftovers because he might get sick from the bacteria. WTF?”
Darkcutter follows this up with a litany of unhygienic behaviors: “My ex was one of the filthiest people imaginable. She would go for weeks without showering, was incredibly bad at taking care of her living space. (The mess in her room seeped into the rest of the apartment she shared with her mother and grandmother.) She threw her used tampons and such at the wall, spit chunks on the wall, and had half-full soft drink cans everywhere, some well over a month old. She adamantly refused to clean up after herself or her [six] cats, never flushed the toilet, and generally acted like a spoiled [brat].”
14. On the other end of the spectrum, OCD over cleanliness isn’t gross, but it leads to suffocating control issues.
Sometimes, the problem in a relationship isn’t a lack of cleanliness but being too clean. When a significant other controls another person’s hygiene habits even when those habits are already decent, this may be a sign of obsessive-compulsive disorder. While controlling tendencies can manifest in any number of behaviors, TJT42 describes his experience with a girlfriend who obsessed over cleanliness:
“Well, this . . . was certainly incredibly annoying and odd. I once had a girlfriend who absolutely positively would not let me get into the bed until I had showered with a certain lineup of four different gels, soaps, and whatever, and I had to use them in a certain order. She would watch me do this since I would come home quite late usually and she had already showered most of the time. It was just a weird obsessive thing she did. I could have already have showered before I came over, and she’d still do this.”
13. When personal privacy goes haywire, so does the relationship.
Everyone requires different levels of personal privacy in a relationship, but even the most public person needs a little personal space. Both parties in the relationship need to understand how their needs differ and actively work toward balancing them. So when one party disrespects the need for that space, the relationship needs a course correction at the least and termination at the worst. Do you think this next situation is gross enough to call it quits?
Meinbaum shares their disgusting experience with a boyfriend who completely ignored her need for personal privacy — worse, he utterly violated her space: “I read through this entire thread to make sure that my ex didn’t write anything about me. I dated a dude who would ‘break in’ to the bathroom while I was in there. Whether I was going to the bathroom or taking a shower, or whatever, he would complain that I was taking too much time, and he had to [pee]. One morning he was doing this, and I thought he was being cute and trying to shower with me. He gets into the shower and starts peeing ON ME. Not cool.”
12. Disgustingly gross chewing habits fuel nothing but spite…
[deleted] shares how destructive something seemingly innocuous, like chewing, can be on a relationship: “[T]he way my ex ate was disgusting. Even at nicer restaurants, he would just mow down without any regard for the awful mouth noises he was making or the fact that he chewed with his mouth open. When eating any kind of meat off a bone (like wings), he would seriously gnaw on the bone until every last bit of meat, fat and connective tissue was gone. Loudly.
He once did this with at-bone steak at a nice restaurant (holding the bone in his hands), and no amount of evil stares or under-the-table kicking gave him any kind of hint. We were with our friends, so I didn’t want to say anything and be a nag. It was just such a turnoff watching him eat like a [freaking] animal. I couldn’t even kiss him that night. Ugh. He had many other disgusting habits (including leaving faprags all over his bedroom, never washing his clothes because HE couldn’t smell them, terrible oral hygiene), but that was the worst.”
11. … especially when some of these habits are truly repulsive.
Further idiosyncrasies abound when it comes to chewing behaviors. The issue seems to stem from a basic lack of self-awareness or perhaps the idea that the eater’s partner would understand. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case, as Cobra1000 can attest: “My ex would drag his fork across his teeth when he ate. Then he’d chew with his mouth open and talk with his mouth full of food. But he had this speech affectation where he’d pause before saying something, which wasn’t an issue when we weren’t eating, but during meals, he’d have his mouth open full of half-chewed food while he waited to get his words out. It was so weird and gross.”
In some cases, these idiosyncrasies can arise out of nowhere. [redacted] describes how a 10-year relationship came to an end due to their partner’s gross chewing habits: “Chewing with her mouth open. For 10 years, she chewed normally, but then one day, I could hear her chewing gum from down a 40-inch hall and around the corner. I pretty much had to leave the house if she planned to eat peanut butter toast.”
10. Some things should never enter any human mouth.
Disgusting chewing habits with actual food is one thing. If your SO is sucking on other things that should never be put in a human mouth, it might be difficult — or impossible — to see yourself living a “happily ever after” with that person. Poprocks_and_cola is unfortunately all too familiar with this weird phenomenon, explaining: “I dated this guy [who] had this really gross habit of always sucking the most disgusting things. It started off small, sucking my toes after I had been for a long walk. But soon, he was picking coins off the sidewalk and sucking them. I eventually ended [the relationship] when he sucked a dog’s tail.”
WrykerOdetoI shares a similar story, but instead of the human as the sucker, he is the suckee: “Went to his apartment for the first time after a few dates. Both of us were broke, and between paychecks, so we decided to go to his [place] and watch T.V. Halfway through an episode, I looked over, and his puppy is legitimately suckling on his tongue. I know of people who let their dogs lick them on their mouths, but this was a whole new level for me.”
9. One person’s habit of smelling weird things is another bad omen for a gross relationship.
Relationships require patience. But sometimes, those ticks are so disturbing that no amount of patience can overcome them, like when a partner purposely smells the most rancid items. [deleted] describes an ex who did just that: “My ex had to smell EVERYTHING. Seriously, it was sad. Really weirded me out as well. Like what the [eff] are you smelling that for? ‘I don’t know every time. Never fails.”
Unfortunately, the issue seems to be fairly common, as ScrangiePangie can attest: “[My ex] liked to smell strange things. Gym socks after running 5 miles… yeah, he’d need to take a big whiff of those. Yep, they smelled horrible! He then proceeded to smell them a couple more times for good measure. The same goes for sweaty pits of workout shirts, shower towels after many uses, and of course, his own B.O.” [deleted] also shares some offensive smelling habits: “My ex had to smell everything. For example, when he adjusted himself down there when he got ear wax out of his ear, and whenever he cleaned his teeth with a toothpick. I’m sure there’s more, but I can’t think of any more.”
8. Lollipops are all good and well — until they lead to gross sucking noises.
There’s “normal” sucking on weird things, and then there’s weird sucking on normal things — namely, lollipops. While the latter behavior may not seem as extreme, it can definitely be a dealbreaker. RebuildingMyself describes their ex’s relationship-ending lollipop-sucking habit: “Ex-GF loved lollipops. Nothing wrong with that. Until you are at the computer and want to show her something while she’s sucking on one, [making] disgusting slurpy noises RIGHT IN YOUR [FREAKING] EAR. Or she’ll try to have a conversation while eating one at the same time, thinking she’s handling the slurpiness properly — but she isn’t, and that’s all I hear.”
Others agree these such slurping noises are intolerable. [deleted] replied, “This is the worst. I can’t stand mouth/slurpy noises.” I-heart-naps also has a phobia of these noises, although they seem to be making it work in their relationship: “I hate mouth noises, whether it’s human or animal. I don’t even like when my animals groom themselves [and I can hear] the noise. My boyfriend intentionally makes those noises sometimes just to annoy me.” Do you think this is gross, or just okay?
7. Certain exes seem to have missed a few potty training lessons.
When it comes to toilet hygiene, some things need never be spoken between two people in a romantic relationship. Cannelle shares a nauseating and highly disturbing story about their ex-boyfriend’s inadequate bathroom behaviors: “My ex never properly wiped his [butt], so his underwear always had these horrendous streaks on them. When I asked him about it once, he got hugely [ticked] off at me and told me those weren’t [s*&!] stains and streak marks. They were just butt sweat. He also got really pissed off when I asked why he didn’t sweat brown anywhere else on his body.Nice guy.”
Ahylianhero had eerily similar, just-as-disgusting experiences as Cannelle: “My ex would only halfway wipe his [butt]. We got to the point where we were comfortable enough to use the bathroom with the other in the room, so there were times where we’d talk while pooping. One day, I was wiping, and he seemed really grossed out that I check my toilet paper after I wipe, and I explained, ‘I don’t stop wiping until the toilet paper comes up clean.’ He told me he just guesses at these things.”
6. Some personal matters should never go public, especially when they involve genitals. That’s gross.
In cis heterosexual relationships, it can be hard for a person of one sex to understand the behaviors of the other. It’s no secret that many women don’t get why men touch themselves so brazenly. The issue is even worse when the man touches himself in public, as Keysarecool describes: “My ex would touch/fiddle with/adjust his genitals in public, I think he thinks no one notices but everyone does. Also, he would touch his [butt] and not wash his hands until I begged for him to. He had no sense of smell and could not tell how putrid his swamp-[butt] was.”
Neostorm360’s friend faced a similar gross problem that ended her relationship: “Not my ex, but a friend’s. She claimed that anytime he was naked (in the shower, bedroom, whatever), he would pinch his ball sack and rub it between his thumb and other fingers. What’s weird is that he apparently didn’t know he was doing it, just some sort of weird nervous habit.”
5. Public displays of affection can be gross, and really do belong in the bedroom.
The age-old argument over the appropriate level of PDA is more than just a debate — it can actually be a relationship-ender for some couples. Take fluffywhereareyou’s uncomfortable story: “[My ex had a bad habit of] grabbing and groping me in public. I can handle signs of affection like holding hands and cuddling, but this guy used to [do a] full grope while we were walking down the street. [He’d] just grab a boob or a butt cheek and not let go until I physically made him. When I asked him why he felt the need to do that, he told me it was because he wanted to show everyone that I was his. So… bye.”
Vault101’s response may one-up fluffywhereareyou’s story, given the toll on her mental health: “[My ex] would constantly like… tickle my girl parts whenever I got out of a car or whenever he was coming up the stairs behind me. I hated it so much. I think he thought it was fun and sexy or something, but I told him I didn’t like it, and he just kept doing it, saying, ‘Come on, it’s me.’ I have pretty brutal anxiety, and it really didn’t help.” Do you agree that this behavior is gross in public? Maybe not so much…
4. Two’s a company, three’s a crowd, three-plus multiple pets is too much.
DoctorDank tells of a much-too-crowded situation that ended his relationship. Some wouldn’t mind, but others find this really gross! “One time, the girl I was seeing invited me over for dinner and to stay the night. Now, she lived in a different city than I did, and as I didn’t have a car at the time, this meant arranging transportation from my friend’s [place] and paying for gas money, so no mean feat. As I arrived, I was informed that her new roommate didn’t have a bed, and she would be sharing the king-sized bed with us. ‘No big deal,’ I thought, ‘If we’re gonna get down, we’ll do it on the couch after the roommate [goes] to bed.
WRONG. No sexy times for me. So after dinner, I listened to some of her (bad) poetry and then was informed she was tired and was going to sleep. Oh, and guess who shares the bed? All three cats that lived there, and her Rottweiler. So that’s three people, three cats, and a dog, all in one bed. I don’t think I’ve ever had a worse night of sleep in my life, and I never saw her again.”
Want to talk about something gross? Let’s talk about the mama’s boy concept. The mama’s boy trope exists for a reason: to all S.O.s’ chagrin, mama’s boys are far too real. These men’s boys’ behavior can reach an irreconcilable extreme to the point where it may seem like he has a crush on his own mother. Mackattack1015 describes such an experience: “Here’s a good one. My ex was overly attached to his mother to the point where it was weird. He used nicknames for her like ‘sweetheart’ and ‘babe.’ It was downright creepy.”
Mystik-Spiral’s ex also knew no boundaries with his mother: “My [ex’s] mother hated me so, in what I can only assume was a display of dominance, she waddled down the [stair] steps (she was as round as she was tall) in her pajamas (read: long t-shirt). She then turned around and had him take her bra off her. His excuse? Her nails were too long, and she was too large to reach around and do it herself. I pointed out that she could do what all women do and bring the straps off her shoulders and turn the bra around to unhook it in the front. He did not agree with me.”
2. Arguments over money never bode well, especially if one person wastes it all.
Constant disagreements over finances are a bad sign for any couple — there’s a reason they’re considered a top contributor to breakups. Combine these arguments with people’s hugely differing home temperature preferences, and you have a recipe for disaster. Sure this type of behavior might not be gross in the physical sense. BlorfMonger shares their hot-and-cold situation: “[My girlfriend] would turn the A.C. up on high, and then get a space heater and point it at her toes. No…she never paid any power bills.” Needless to say, that relationship ended up completely cold.
Blorfmonger’s story attracted sympathy. Apostolate commiserated, stating: “I don’t know what’s wrong with some people. It’s suddenly too hot, too cold… If I leave my windows shut unless it’s like 90 or 20 I don’t even need A.C./heating. Put on a [godd*%&] sweater.” kmwhite disagreed with their temperature preferences, but at least owned up to contributing to the electric bills: “I prefer it to 65F, but I’ve adopted all the power bills. I know my preferences rack up the bill; no one should have to pay for that except me.” The moral to this story: if financial responsibility is one-sided, the relationship may not be destined to last.
Sleep talking is one of a range of behaviors that can occur while sleeping, such as walking and eating, to name a couple. Talking during sleep is usually low-key but can sometimes intensify to a disruptive point in relationships. After all, healthy couples typically sleep in the same bed, and unwanted occurrences can unravel a relationship. Waynechang92 describes how his ex’s sleep talking became intolerable: “My ex had this thing where she would have mini-seizures in her sleep. She would just randomly start vibrating and shaking for a little bit. Also, she sometimes sleep talked. She once sat up in her sleep and shouted, ‘MATH IS EXCELLENT!’ and went back to sleep.
Then there was the time she woke me up because she was talking in her sleep. When I tried to find out what was wrong, my completely unprepared solar plexus received a full-force punch. She didn’t remember a thing.” Another Redditor, Kellianne, describes her marriage going the way of Waynechang92’s relationship: “My husband started talking in his sleep about six months ago. It is loud and startling. Sometimes just a word or two and sometimes a [freaking] conversation. I got very little sleep, and we now sleep in different rooms.”