In China, the measure of successful parenting often hinges on the academic achievements of one’s children. A significant proportion, approximately a quarter or even more, of a family’s income is commonly devoted to private tutors and prestigious schools. Academic success takes precedence over nearly everything else in this context. The intensity of parental involvement can be likened to helicopter parenting, yet it operates at an even more heightened level. Besides excelling academically, children are instilled with a deep-rooted value for respecting their elders, a core cultural tenet.
Parents take it upon themselves to meticulously structure their children’s routines, brimming with an array of activities such as golf, dance, English language learning, piano, and vocal lessons, all during their formative years. This regimen can be perceived as emblematic of an “authoritarian” parenting style, as noted by some researchers. Regrettably, this approach can also manifest as a withholding of affection or love in response to a child’s academic shortcomings, casting a shadow over the nurturing process. In essence, the concept of successful child-rearing in China intertwines rigorous academic attainment, respect for elders, and a discipline-driven approach, albeit with potential emotional repercussions. (Parenting Science).